When You Experience the Loss of Someone Close to Your Heart

Father God in Jesus Name I pray for the healing balm of the Holy Spirit. Lord, give words of wisdom and comfort, direction and guidance, faith, inspiration and hope in the name of Jesus. Amen.

Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his saints.– Psalm 116:15 (KJV)

When it comes to losing someone to death, it’s a tough thing.  It’s often so tough we refuse to think about it. It’s traumatic.  We block it out, because we hurt.  However, when we don’t acknowledge the hurt God can’t do a work in our hearts and lives.  The Lord knows our heart is hurting and The Lord cares.  The Bible says that He cares for us in 1 Peter 5:7.  God loves you and wants you to know that.  He experienced death on this Earth when He came.  He saw his best friend Lazarus die.  Lazarus, Martha and Mary were close to Jesus.  Their house was his “go to” place when Jesus was in town. They were friends of Jesus and He loved them dearly.


However, what do we do when we encounter such a tragedy?  Many of the times we are in shock, we don’t know what to do. Sometimes a counselor can help, but sometimes depression and even Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can kick in.  However, does God have any good ideas about how we should look at the death of a Christian believer?  Of course He does, because He is your Father. He loves you and in His Word there is comfort. He is and always will be the God of comfort. One of His divine attributes is found in 2 Corinthians 1:3 which states that He is “the God of all comfort.”


What response should we have?


1)     Faith.  As a Christian, we know there is an after-life and in that after-life are other believers.  God knows our desires and our desires to see a person again and He will supply that through His divine grace.  Although death is horrendous, death was overcame when Jesus stepped out of a tomb resurrected which said to the enemy “death is conquerable.”


2)     Wisdom. The truth is, sometimes when someone dies we can run to a “quick fix.” The enemy will trick us into thinking that drugs, sex, old or new vices or anything can “fill” the void when only God can bring about the healing and the void filling.  Satan always looks for a way to attack us and since he caused sin he caused death to take place, he uses his own “problem he started” to try to start another problem in our lives. Be on guard when trauma and hurt comes because with that comes Gods offer and Satan’s trap.  Be wise!



3)     Favor. God wants to bless you. Sometimes when someone is lost in your life, God sends someone you needed.  Sometimes you find out who your true friends are and sometimes you find out who they aren’t. Although they aren’t the person you wanted back, Gods favor will place an awesome person in your life to help you grow in faith, be with you in hurt and comfort you in turmoil.  It’s quite often that the hand and healing of God comes through people, that’s why it may be important to see a counselor as a sign of dependence upon God as He has called many to be counselors.  Jesus Himself is called “the wonderful counselor” in Isaiah 9:6.


4)     Victory!  Yes, VICTORY. We have victory through death. We have victory over death and we have that because Jesus took death on the Cross, made an open show of Satan’s biggest trap and face to face said “it’s nothing.” He is the resurrection and the life. (John 11:25)  The Word of God says “O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.” – 1 Corinthians 15:57 (KJV) The truth is, where is deaths victory?  Since when has death become a defeat in the life of a believer?  When death hits a believer, they enter the presence of God as it is written in 2 Corinthians 5:8 “to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.”  We have the victory over death and so did they. Does it hurt, yes. Will it continue to hurt, yes! Will your pain ease? Of course. But remember the good times. Remember when they were there for you. Remember your conversations. Remember when you did good things for them. Remember when you went out to eat that one time and had a life changing conversation. Remember when God showed you a side of them that very few ever saw. Remember when they did something that made you smile. Remember all the things that brought you joy. Remember how they were awesome and amazing in your sight. Remember the lessons they taught you. Remember not what you lost, but what you gained from their existence and remember this, you will as a Christian see them again.  Jesus loves you deeply and so do I!


Father God, I pray for the God of comfort to be revealed to each person who sees this and even those who need to see it but for some reason or another may not. Lord, we will all face this, but one thing is certain, God, You are amazing. You hold our lives in Your hands as You held theirs in Yours.  Father, reveal the side of You that we need most and help us to cherish the people we were with and imitate the scriptures which tell us that it is a precious thing in the sight of the Lord for the death of His saints. Lord, we trust You and commit our hurt, feelings and emotions over to You. Don’t let us fall into the “quick fixes” of satan and don’t let us fall into depression, let us fall into the mercy and gracious healing hands of God. Father, we love You and we love them and thank You that we will once again, see them again, reunited in a Kingdom without sorrow and death, but pure joy and love from the Father of love the Holy Spirit of joy and the One who defeated death for us all, Our Awesome, Amazing Lord and Savior Jesus ChristAmen!


“The last enemy that shall be destroyed is death.” – 1 Corinthians 15:26 (KJV)